I also got married at 22 right after I graduated from college, so we’re in similar boats. One of my sticking points, however, was that I was able to financially support myself.
We’ve been married for more than 2 years now, and it’s been great. We’re growing together and enjoying all of it.
Im still in school and my boyfriend of 9 months has proposed to me. People laugh but i don’t doubt that it will happen. Thanks for sharing your story, it helps to know that its possible for love to last forever, no matter what.
“You survive. You do what’s necessary and make it through the downs so you can enjoy the ups.”
I think this piece of advice works toward anything you want to accomplish. Then, you make sure you keep surviving, because you only lose when you're out of time and you haven't achieved said goal. It's the power of perserverance.
At the same time, as you said “still remember why you loved the person at the beginning,” I think that can be applied on a bigger scale to any goal as well. You rememeber your goals and keep them in front of you, especially during hard times, when it's easy to question yourself as to why you're doing something in the first place. I know this from experience. I can't tell you enough how many times I would sit down and reexamine why the hell I chose to be an actor.
Will Smith says his marriage works because as you said, he survives and works through it. Of course they have problems, but they had one mutual agreement: divorce is not an option (nevermind that this is his 2nd marriage). It's the sign of a true committment, “burning the ships” is what they call it. It's a term not too many people are familiar with, because of the need for security.
Perhaps, in this age, we have too many options, too many choices: Wal Mart or Target, this barber or the one down the street, this career or another, and when something appears to go wrong, we can easily turn away. But that's not always a good thing, especially when so many rewards come along later down any given path.
I enjoyed your post Monica. I'm always trying to make my relationship survive
“You survive. You do what’s necessary and make it through the downs so you can enjoy the ups.”
I think this piece of advice works toward anything you want to accomplish. Then, you make sure you keep surviving, because you only lose when you're out of time and you haven't achieved said goal. It's the power of perserverance.
At the same time, as you said “still remember why you loved the person at the beginning,” I think that can be applied on a bigger scale to any goal as well. You rememeber your goals and keep them in front of you, especially during hard times, when it's easy to question yourself as to why you're doing something in the first place. I know this from experience. I can't tell you enough how many times I would sit down and reexamine why the hell I chose to be an actor.
Will Smith says his marriage works because as you said, he survives and works through it. Of course they have problems, but they had one mutual agreement: divorce is not an option (nevermind that this is his 2nd marriage). It's the sign of a true committment, “burning the ships” is what they call it. It's a term not too many people are familiar with, because of the need for security.
Perhaps, in this age, we have too many options, too many choices: Wal Mart or Target, this barber or the one down the street, this career or another, and when something appears to go wrong, we can easily turn away. But that's not always a good thing, especially when so many rewards come along later down any given path.
I enjoyed your post Monica. I'm always trying to make my relationship survive
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I also got married at 22 right after I graduated from college, so we’re in similar boats. One of my sticking points, however, was that I was able to financially support myself.
We’ve been married for more than 2 years now, and it’s been great. We’re growing together and enjoying all of it.
Jason,
That’s great. Thanks for sharing. Having your finances together is important in a marriage. Sounds like things are going well for you!
Im still in school and my boyfriend of 9 months has proposed to me. People laugh but i don’t doubt that it will happen. Thanks for sharing your story, it helps to know that its possible for love to last forever, no matter what.
“You survive. You do what’s necessary and make it through the downs so you can enjoy the ups.”
I think this piece of advice works toward anything you want to accomplish. Then, you make sure you keep surviving, because you only lose when you're out of time and you haven't achieved said goal. It's the power of perserverance.
At the same time, as you said “still remember why you loved the person at the beginning,” I think that can be applied on a bigger scale to any goal as well. You rememeber your goals and keep them in front of you, especially during hard times, when it's easy to question yourself as to why you're doing something in the first place. I know this from experience. I can't tell you enough how many times I would sit down and reexamine why the hell I chose to be an actor.
Will Smith says his marriage works because as you said, he survives and works through it. Of course they have problems, but they had one mutual agreement: divorce is not an option (nevermind that this is his 2nd marriage). It's the sign of a true committment, “burning the ships” is what they call it. It's a term not too many people are familiar with, because of the need for security.
Perhaps, in this age, we have too many options, too many choices: Wal Mart or Target, this barber or the one down the street, this career or another, and when something appears to go wrong, we can easily turn away. But that's not always a good thing, especially when so many rewards come along later down any given path.
I enjoyed your post Monica. I'm always trying to make my relationship survive
“You survive. You do what’s necessary and make it through the downs so you can enjoy the ups.”
I think this piece of advice works toward anything you want to accomplish. Then, you make sure you keep surviving, because you only lose when you're out of time and you haven't achieved said goal. It's the power of perserverance.
At the same time, as you said “still remember why you loved the person at the beginning,” I think that can be applied on a bigger scale to any goal as well. You rememeber your goals and keep them in front of you, especially during hard times, when it's easy to question yourself as to why you're doing something in the first place. I know this from experience. I can't tell you enough how many times I would sit down and reexamine why the hell I chose to be an actor.
Will Smith says his marriage works because as you said, he survives and works through it. Of course they have problems, but they had one mutual agreement: divorce is not an option (nevermind that this is his 2nd marriage). It's the sign of a true committment, “burning the ships” is what they call it. It's a term not too many people are familiar with, because of the need for security.
Perhaps, in this age, we have too many options, too many choices: Wal Mart or Target, this barber or the one down the street, this career or another, and when something appears to go wrong, we can easily turn away. But that's not always a good thing, especially when so many rewards come along later down any given path.
I enjoyed your post Monica. I'm always trying to make my relationship survive
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