Men Need To Grow Up?

It’s “common knowledge” that women have always been the mature sex, thus absolving us from degrading terms like “child-man.” I put “common knowledge” in quotes because I still meet silly girls every day who continue to rely on their own childish techniques to get attention. I recognize them, because not too long ago I was one of them:

• I was the girl who flirted shamelessly so she’d never have to pay for drinks. Who was still partying at the frat house at 4am, even though she had a boyfriend.
• I was the girl who showed up late to every class, if she bothered going, because she could get away with it. Regardless of how rude it was.
• I was the girl who spent all her money on clothes and other things she didn’t need. Who called daddy or boyfriend every time she wanted something done, or just wanted something period.

Maybe you were too. Maybe you still are, even if it’s more subtle in your post-college years. In that case, don’t tell me how there are no good guys interested in marriage. Don’t pretend being superficial is okay. Don’t fool yourself into thinking your outward beauty means you’ll never end up alone.

Instead, give guys a reason to want to settle down. Be interesting. Be lovely. Be someone worth giving up bachelorhood for.

Sure, men need to grow up, but they aren’t the only ones.

Women, do you need to grow up?  Here are four things that might help:

• Buy a full length mirror, if you don’t already own one. If you look in the mirror before heading out the door for work and can use the words “hot” or “sexy,” change. Keep changing until the words “professional” and “classy” come up.
• Manage your own finances. I read Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich : 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money my senior year of college, and it changed my life. I recommend it, even if you think you have your finances figured out.
• Take a kick-boxing class. There’s nothing so mentally and physically challenging as martial arts. You will learn integrity, discipline, and how to kick someone’s ass. The better body is a bonus.
• Surround yourself with women. Let’s face it – it’s easy for you to get what you want from men. So stop spending time with men and work with more women. You’re less likely to get things you want by flirting with a woman, so the relationships will teach you how to negotiate and express your ideas succinctly. Women hold other women accountable – use it to your advantage to become a better person.

Draw all people to you rather than pushing yourself on the opposite sex. It’s more rewarding to have others come to you, for your brain, not your cup size or pretty face, because you’re just that fantastic.