Great points, we agree completely – focusing on the positive is a great way to live.
It’s funny how people who are overly negative are very infectious to those around them, are are people who are very positive. Which is why so many people are drawn (often times unconsciously) to negative people.
I’m sorry, I wasn’t intending to attack your post like that; it just seemed like a good example of how people view my marriage. What you wrote is nothing compared to the guys who tell me flat out to my face why I will be divorced by 30. Or who place bets on how long my marriage will last. Maybe I should have written about that instead
Absolutely not, don’t give it a second thought! Especially since it struck a personal chord with you.
I’m really glad that you saw a piece on our site that inspired you to write about something close to your heart. One of our major goals is to inspire thought, strike up conversation, and get people talking.
What you wrote is nothing compared to the guys who tell me flat out to my face why I will be divorced by 30. Or who place bets on how long my marriage will last. Maybe I should have written about that instead.
Ouch, that’s just poisonous, I would do whatever I could to eliminate anyone like that from my life whenever possible.
Jennifer and I try hard to only associate and surround ourselves with people who radiate possibility, opportunity, passion, happiness, you get the point. As I said, a highly positive person is just as infectious as a highly negative one.
I only wish I could get away from these people, but unfortunately it won’t be happening anytime soon. I’ve learned to not let the comments bother me – it’s tough to offend me to begin with, and it’s a lot tougher when I don’t have respect for the person.
Thanks again for being a good sport, and I appreciate the links you forwarded along to me. Your website is interesting – who doesn’t love talking about dating and sex? You provide a unique perspective on popular romance issues.
Hi Monica, I know where you’re coming from. Whenever I tell people how old I am, they are shocked. They tell me I look about 6 years younger. This would be great if they followed it up with “what’s your secret?” or “good for you” instead of going on and on in disbelief, which just comes off as rude and feels as if they are attacking me.
It would be great if people would keep their judgments to themselves. Or better yet, if people could just stop being judgmental!
Congratulations on finding a partner early in life and getting an MBA
Monica I really like this post! I am someone who is really sensitive to “absorbing” whatever energy is being given off by the people I surround myself with. For that reason I try to stay away from the negative types.
I can also relate to the negative comments about marrying early – I got married at age 24. It has always really irritated me when people think they are doing me a favor by telling me how stupid it is to get married at a young age. While I respect their opinion, and agree that marrying early is not the right choice for everyone, I think it is the right choice for some people(including myself!), and don’t think its appropriate to go around lecturing about what is “right” and “wrong” for such a personal decision that is different for everyone.
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Hey Monica,
Great points, we agree completely – focusing on the positive is a great way to live.
It’s funny how people who are overly negative are very infectious to those around them, are are people who are very positive. Which is why so many people are drawn (often times unconsciously) to negative people.
Have an awesome day!
Dan & Jennifer
Dan,
I’m sorry, I wasn’t intending to attack your post like that; it just seemed like a good example of how people view my marriage. What you wrote is nothing compared to the guys who tell me flat out to my face why I will be divorced by 30. Or who place bets on how long my marriage will last. Maybe I should have written about that instead
Hey Monica,
Absolutely not, don’t give it a second thought! Especially since it struck a personal chord with you.
I’m really glad that you saw a piece on our site that inspired you to write about something close to your heart. One of our major goals is to inspire thought, strike up conversation, and get people talking.
Ouch, that’s just poisonous, I would do whatever I could to eliminate anyone like that from my life whenever possible.
Jennifer and I try hard to only associate and surround ourselves with people who radiate possibility, opportunity, passion, happiness, you get the point.
As I said, a highly positive person is just as infectious as a highly negative one.
Have an awesome day!
Dan & Jennifer
Dan,
I only wish I could get away from these people, but unfortunately it won’t be happening anytime soon. I’ve learned to not let the comments bother me – it’s tough to offend me to begin with, and it’s a lot tougher when I don’t have respect for the person.
Thanks again for being a good sport, and I appreciate the links you forwarded along to me. Your website is interesting – who doesn’t love talking about dating and sex? You provide a unique perspective on popular romance issues.
Hi Monica, I know where you’re coming from. Whenever I tell people how old I am, they are shocked. They tell me I look about 6 years younger. This would be great if they followed it up with “what’s your secret?” or “good for you” instead of going on and on in disbelief, which just comes off as rude and feels as if they are attacking me.
It would be great if people would keep their judgments to themselves. Or better yet, if people could just stop being judgmental!
Congratulations on finding a partner early in life and getting an MBA
Monica I really like this post! I am someone who is really sensitive to “absorbing” whatever energy is being given off by the people I surround myself with. For that reason I try to stay away from the negative types.
I can also relate to the negative comments about marrying early – I got married at age 24. It has always really irritated me when people think they are doing me a favor by telling me how stupid it is to get married at a young age. While I respect their opinion, and agree that marrying early is not the right choice for everyone, I think it is the right choice for some people(including myself!), and don’t think its appropriate to go around lecturing about what is “right” and “wrong” for such a personal decision that is different for everyone.