Comments on: Newlywed All Over Again: How I Fixed My Marriage http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/ Small Biz. Big Buzz. by Monica O'Brien Thu, 09 Sep 2010 02:41:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: You don’t need a blog topic. Just start writing. | Twenty Set http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-728 You don’t need a blog topic. Just start writing. | Twenty Set Mon, 23 Feb 2009 08:25:07 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-728 [...] with my blog’s growth. Because I don’t write about a specific topic, unless you want to count my life as a specific topic. And I don’t even always write about [...] [...] with my blog’s growth. Because I don’t write about a specific topic, unless you want to count my life as a specific topic. And I don’t even always write about [...]

]]> By: Yezi.G http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-727 Yezi.G Tue, 23 Dec 2008 05:20:24 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-727 I do appreciate your sharing, Monica.I'm not married yet but in a serious relationship (living together). These days I felt confused and sort of upset. The trivial details of life almost defeated me. Honestly saying, I even began wondering have I made the right choice. Is he really the right man? ...But you've told me that nobody will ever know if the decision is correct. Oh, what a relief for me. I'm not lonely.Anyway, be more active could make differences. I do love my boyfriend and I wish to get it (the marriage/the relationship) work out together with him. I do appreciate your sharing, Monica.I’m not married yet but in a serious relationship (living together). These days I felt confused and sort of upset. The trivial details of life almost defeated me. Honestly saying, I even began wondering have I made the right choice. Is he really the right man? …But you’ve told me that nobody will ever know if the decision is correct. Oh, what a relief for me. I’m not lonely.Anyway, be more active could make differences. I do love my boyfriend and I wish to get it (the marriage/the relationship) work out together with him.

]]> By: Monica O'Brien http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-726 Monica O'Brien Sat, 11 Oct 2008 19:40:57 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-726 Yeah, I would agree, marriage is definitely a work in progress. I certainly don't have all the answers yet, but I do know that making time for a marriage when both people want their careers is just plain hard. I'm writing another article on how I think marriage is going to change with the help of generation Y and some generation X pioneers. Definitely keep a look out for it, and thanks for the comment :). Yeah, I would agree, marriage is definitely a work in progress. I certainly don’t have all the answers yet, but I do know that making time for a marriage when both people want their careers is just plain hard. I’m writing another article on how I think marriage is going to change with the help of generation Y and some generation X pioneers. Definitely keep a look out for it, and thanks for the comment :) .

]]> By: stephanerd http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-725 stephanerd Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:45:43 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-725 It's such a relief to read a post that describes exactly what I'm experiencing. I've been married a little over a year now, and it often feels as if we're more roommates than husband and wife. I freelance full-time, and he freelances on top of his full-time job, and the two of us spend more hours than not sitting back-to-back at our computers until we finally just have to head to bed and pass out. We've tried incorporating evening walks and weekly date nights, but sometimes we slip (like lately). It's frustrating but it's also a work-in-progress, I suppose. And I guess that, as long as those lines of communication are open, and we're talking about it with each other, we're still doing okay. :) It’s such a relief to read a post that describes exactly what I’m experiencing. I’ve been married a little over a year now, and it often feels as if we’re more roommates than husband and wife. I freelance full-time, and he freelances on top of his full-time job, and the two of us spend more hours than not sitting back-to-back at our computers until we finally just have to head to bed and pass out. We’ve tried incorporating evening walks and weekly date nights, but sometimes we slip (like lately). It’s frustrating but it’s also a work-in-progress, I suppose. And I guess that, as long as those lines of communication are open, and we’re talking about it with each other, we’re still doing okay. :)

]]> By: Jaclyn http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-715 Jaclyn Thu, 02 Oct 2008 05:20:21 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-715 Fantastic post! I admire your openness and willingness to tackle a subject that people don't like to write / talk about. Fantastic post! I admire your openness and willingness to tackle a subject that people don’t like to write / talk about.

]]> By: Dare You to Stop. at Personal PR http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-722 Dare You to Stop. at Personal PR Thu, 02 Oct 2008 04:12:52 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-722 [...] Stop. Remove the clutter. Shut out the extra voices, distractions, obligations. Strip down to what really matters. This is no small task. It can take days, weeks, months to really tear down all the physical and [...] [...] Stop. Remove the clutter. Shut out the extra voices, distractions, obligations. Strip down to what really matters. This is no small task. It can take days, weeks, months to really tear down all the physical and [...]

]]> By: Erin http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-723 Erin Tue, 30 Sep 2008 19:34:08 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-723 I am with you Monica. I'm 26 and my husband is 33...two DIFFERENT generations. I think the time we had to work on our relationship the most was when we were dating. He was set in his ways and I was young and ready to go... We only got married after we figured each other out. It was well worth it. I am with you Monica. I’m 26 and my husband is 33…two DIFFERENT generations. I think the time we had to work on our relationship the most was when we were dating. He was set in his ways and I was young and ready to go… We only got married after we figured each other out. It was well worth it.

]]> By: Rebecca http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-720 Rebecca Tue, 30 Sep 2008 18:14:21 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-720 I'm not sure I can comment because I'm single, but I'm going to anyway. Thank you for writing this post. It made me change a little bit how I look at relationships for the better, and believe that what I've felt about love/marriage for awhile now is actually true. I’m not sure I can comment because I’m single, but I’m going to anyway. Thank you for writing this post. It made me change a little bit how I look at relationships for the better, and believe that what I’ve felt about love/marriage for awhile now is actually true.

]]> By: J.T. http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-721 J.T. Tue, 30 Sep 2008 17:47:19 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-721 Insightful post Monica. After 11 years of marriage, I still feel like I'm only just starting to decipher what works best for us. I'm on the other side of the curve where everyone has gotten married and now the divorces are starting to surface. Reading your post, I am reminded of this and find myself grateful for what I've got. Best Wishes! Insightful post Monica. After 11 years of marriage, I still feel like I’m only just starting to decipher what works best for us. I’m on the other side of the curve where everyone has gotten married and now the divorces are starting to surface. Reading your post, I am reminded of this and find myself grateful for what I’ve got.

Best Wishes!

]]> By: Monica O'Brien http://blog.monicaobrien.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-719 Monica O'Brien Tue, 30 Sep 2008 16:12:12 +0000 http://twentyset.com/newlywed-all-over-again-how-i-fixed-my-marriage/#comment-719 YManagingBoomers, I agree. I think people are very quick to give up on their marriages. I was close, for sure. But a marriage is not like a job or a business or a degree or an apartment lease or a game - you can't just quit because it gets hard. Probably if more people would stop associating falling out of love with growing apart they would realize that you can always fix growing apart by adding some empathy. Mike, not sure how you did it - I can't imagine starting a business with a kid at my age! You definitely have a very supportive wife. Dorie, I love your points - the first that "Love that lasts is uncomfortable" and the second that "Marriage is the only family you ever get to choose." I think the combination of these two is why people get divorced - because when things get uncomfortable people think they've made the wrong choice. Tiffany, as a newlywed you know just as well as I do about the "active" part. My problem was I thought I was active enough, but I was actually passive. It's easy to get that way when you're both busy, but this year I'm definitely going to be more aware of my actions. YManagingBoomers, I agree. I think people are very quick to give up on their marriages. I was close, for sure. But a marriage is not like a job or a business or a degree or an apartment lease or a game – you can’t just quit because it gets hard. Probably if more people would stop associating falling out of love with growing apart they would realize that you can always fix growing apart by adding some empathy.

Mike, not sure how you did it – I can’t imagine starting a business with a kid at my age! You definitely have a very supportive wife.

Dorie, I love your points – the first that “Love that lasts is uncomfortable” and the second that “Marriage is the only family you ever get to choose.” I think the combination of these two is why people get divorced – because when things get uncomfortable people think they’ve made the wrong choice.

Tiffany, as a newlywed you know just as well as I do about the “active” part. My problem was I thought I was active enough, but I was actually passive. It’s easy to get that way when you’re both busy, but this year I’m definitely going to be more aware of my actions.

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