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Personal Branding

Back in college, my sorority had a rule when we were voting in new members: anyone who used the word “nice” to describe a rush candidate got sprayed with a Super Soaker.

Yeah, it’s weird. But we never made the mistake of voting in women just because they were nice. That’s the point.

It amazes me how many PR and marketing professionals talk about the importance of conversation – that numbers and fans and followers don’t matter, and that’s it’s actually about building relationships. I don’t disagree with them. The part I disagree with is the conversations they seem to want.

The conversations most people want are the ones where you nod your head in sheep-like agreement, write a comment like “Wow, that’s amazing!” and generally participate in the virtual circle jerk.

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price-tagBack in high school, one of my teachers told the class that he never had a glass of wine when he went out to dinner with his wife. It wasn’t because he didn’t drink, he said, but rather because if he were pulled over on the way home, a DUI would tarnish his reputation in the community and ruin his chances of becoming principal someday. I remember thinking, the guy never stops being a disciplinarian – an example for others. He never lets loose.

And I knew that day that I never wanted a profession where I couldn’t have a regular life after work.

10 years later, the entire world is doing exactly what my former teacher (now high school principal) did to manage his career. Nowadays, everyone has a personal brand – a way to demonstrate value to others quickly and succinctly. And everyone’s personal brand seems to combine professional pursuits with interests and hobbies, blending the traditional worker and his relationships into a 24/7 experience put on display for all to see.

And yet, there seems to be an ongoing war between the people who use social media for personal relationships and the people who use social media for business. The personal side looks at the others and says, “Man, stop selling your stuff to us, we just want to chat with each other and be cool,” and the business side replies, “Dudes, why are you investing so much effort – working so hard at this social media thing – if you can’t eventually feed yourself from it?”

I use my accounts for both personal and professional – but I know from the feedback I get that I have a “personal branding issue.” My clients complain that I tweet too much about things they don’t care about with people they don’t know. My friends who knew me before I was consulting complain that I’m not fun, that all I ever do is talk about what I’m reading and learning, and that I never share my personal stories on my blog anymore – the reason they initially subscribed.

Personal branding is a conundrum for most people – we don’t want to be boring or sales-ish or an expert and we don’t want to be wild or gossipy or strange, and the two words are unmashable, like trying to force two magnets with opposite charges to touch. There is no win, no way to talk to people in our personal and professional lives the same way.

But it has to be done, because there is also no way to separate our personal lives from our professional ones. So here are my thoughts on how to handle the issue:

Accept that social media is a marketplace.

Everyone has something to sell, even the cool kids. Maybe it’s a website – maybe they are trying to get a promotion at work. Maybe they are just trying to cure self-esteem issues with @replies and comments, or maybe they have a product that they want you to purchase. The sooner we all accept this, the better.

Use Twitter and Facebook and your blog to both sell stuff and to talk to friends.

People think they don’t want to be friends with anyone who is a salesperson. But nobody want to buy something from a robot, so part of personal branding is learning how to sell to your friends without damaging the friendship. I write about online marketing mostly, but not always – I sometimes write about eating chocolate before a work out, or Obama winning the Nobel Peace prize. I want to be friends with you, but I also want to tell you what I’m up to professionally.

Refrain from ranting on social media, even if you would in real life to your friends.

I don’t think the world is a better place when people say what they want, rather than what’s nice. I refrain from ranting not because I’m afraid of confrontation, but because some of my clients can find it – and I want them to trust me, not think I’m an insane person with a bad attitude who can’t control her emotions.

Realize it’s expensive to be flippant.

Like this writer I know, who writes about sex a lot. But she represents a company, and sometimes when she writes about sex one of the potential partner companies calls to pull out of a deal. Negative ROI, baby.

To end, I leave you with a great quote I found today:

“You might think that going for years without ‘pitching’ anything would endear you to your audience. But in fact, it tends to just make them cranky when you finally get around to asking for the sale.” ~ Sonia Simone

How do you combine personal and professional online?

60 Days to Entrepreneurial FreedomI’m departing from the normal format of this series to write about my experiences working with startups on social media. Because most entrepreneurs are independent, do-it-yourself types, they are not as accustomed to hiring or outsourcing projects. This is a mistake when it comes to social media, especially if you don’t use the tools in your personal life. I hope to build awareness about how important it is to get some help with social media, especially when your company is first starting out.

Some of the most common mistakes entrepreneurs make with social media revolve around making decisions that aren’t consistent with having good business sense. Because social media tools are free, startups and small businesses tend to take the pasta approach: throwing noodles at a wall to see what sticks. Here are some of the most common mistakes to avoid with social media:

Not developing a social media strategy

Because social media is the hottest trend in marketing, companies assume that all they have to do is set up a Twitter account and a Facebook fan page. This is the equivalent of pulling random magazines out of off the rack and purchasing full page color ad in each one, then throwing together a quick and dirty PowerPoint flyer to run. Just like any other communication medium, social media requires a well-thought out marketing strategy plan.

Perfecting a social media strategy

Even though a social media strategy is important, don’t wait for the strategy to set up your company’s accounts. Reserving your company’s name on various social media sites is of the utmost importance. Furthermore, because it takes time to build social media accounts, every minute you waste by not being there is followers you could be losing.

Thinking the tools are everything

Most social media talk revolves around tools – ie: 10 Ways to Get More Followers on Twitter. While it’s useful to get into the details and tactics of social media, a solid marketing strategy should work no matter the medium. The smartest companies will focus on strategy because in the world of Web 2.0, the tools are constantly changing.

Not using the tools correctly

It takes a long time to build credibility, especially as a company because individuals are taught to be wary of anything that looks like marketing or spamming. Unfortunately, it only takes one discrepancy to do damage to a company’s reputation. Err on the side of caution with each tool, and take time to listen to the conversations and learn the etiquette for each medium.

Not using the tools at all

Many corporate social media profiles make the company look like it went out of business, because the company doesn’t update regularly. Every tool holds opportunity for companies, so companies must be willing to experiment. Rest assured your competitors will be experimenting, so don’t let them set the tone or build equity without having your own presence.

Putting all eggs in one basket

It’s exciting to see extraordinary results on one form of social media, and tempting to invest all your resources into what’s working. Try to resist. With the speed at which technology changes, social media is starting to look similar to the fashion cycle: one day you’re in, the next day you’re out. Tools fall in and out of fashion all the time – remember Friendster, and more recently, MySpace? Companies that build a large equity on one tool will find themselves with nothing if the tool loses popularity.

Gathering followers rather than building a network

There are no shortcuts in social media, and the bottom line is companies have to build relationships with their customers before they can sell anything. Social media may seem free, but the hidden time costs to build relationships Social media is not a quick way to make more sales; in fact, social media actually adds cycle time to the sales process. Just like any other process, a company must consider how much of its resources to invest.

Putting the horse before the carriage

Another cliché is the company that doesn’t follow a logical process with social media and then wonders why it isn’t seeing results. Common sense comes in handy here. For example, consider a company that doesn’t currently have many customers, but creates a Facebook fan page and starts promoting it with Facebook ads. The keyword is “fan;” people who haven’t experienced the product are not likely to join a fan club for it. Make sure your company is following a logical customer acquisition process by thinking about social media from the user-perspective.

Pitching poorly

Every social media user has a very clear idea of what social media means to them, and how they want to be approached by companies on social media. Most companies don’t realize that they way they approach social media sends its own message to consumers.

Creating impersonal accounts

Users don’t follow companies; they follow engaging people who work at companies. Unless the tool is meant specifically for companies to use (ie: Facebook fan pages), every account should be an actual person who has a name and a title that clearly signifies him or her as a face of the company. This person should write with a conversational tone and respond to other participants in the conversation. Automated accounts or accounts that are updated with a stream of links do not produce results.

Controlling the message

Social media is not about controlling a message. In fact, the very nature of social media is such that no one person or organization can control the message. Because social media is a medium to share information through a network, companies must realize that once they put the message out there, they have no control anymore. Users can choose to edit the message, inject their own opinions into the message, share the message, or ignore the message. Furthermore, companies can’t even control where the message starts: a user can also create a message about a company without having any affiliation to them. Because of the nature of social media, companies that try to control the message will have difficulty reaping any of the benefits of the medium.

Not controlling the message

While companies should be careful about trying to exercise too much control over the message, there is also the opposite end of the spectrum to avoid. Companies often cite “control over message” as a reason not to participate in social media, but the truth is that companies have lost control of the message whether they participate or not. This is because, as mentioned earlier, users can create a message and drive the conversation surrounding that message.

So how can companies exercise some control over a message and still reap the benefits of social media (rapid diffusion of information through people sharing messages with their networks)? The answer is that companies need to participate in the conversation. Responding to complaints and stressing the benefits and what the company does well; these are all ways for companies to control the end-consumer’s perception of its products.

Abusing permission

Abusing permission is by far one of the worst mistakes a company can make with messaging. An example would be if a company collected emails from various blogs in a certain niche and started sending weekly newsletters. While this seems harmless on the surface, none of these bloggers signed up for the company’s weekly emails, and thus have not requested the information.

Abusing permission is a fast way for companies to lose credibility, damage relationships, and generally make a bad name for themselves in social media. So where do you draw the line with abusing permission?

Unfortunately, this question is similar to asking where comedians draw the line with potentially offensive jokes. The truth is that different users have different levels of tolerance. Just like a comedian might experiment with messaging based on the feedback he or she is receiving from the audience, your company must experiment with the right level of communication, erring on the side of unobtrusive.

Has your company made mistakes on social media? Have you had a bad experience with a company on social media? Let’s talk about it in the comments section.

 The web is a great tool for personal branding… but like everything else, there are things to watch out for.  Here are three caveats to personal branding on Web 2.0:

Social Networking

Quite frankly, all the social networking sites annoy me.  The first one I had was Facebook and I have little reason to use much else on a regular basis.  Unfortunately, the recent story about how twitter Seth Godin isn’t the real Seth Godin forced me to rethink how important securing social networking accounts are.  Darren Rowse writes:

“It seems that someone (probably a fan by the looks of how it’s being used) registered Seth’s name on Twitter and is using it to simply push out his content from his blog. The use of the account is by no means malicious at this point (in fact it’s probably doing Seth some good because the account has over 1400 followers) however it does leave me with with a take home lesson.

“It highlights to me the important of getting a hold of account names for your brand and name on popular social media sites. Even if you don’t use the accounts that you create it can be well worthwhile securing them to protect yourself from others doing so. This is by no means easy (there are so many of these sites to have to get registered on) but it could be a worthwhile exercise to spend a few hours one day soon to do it on some of the most popular sites.”

Of course, only a problogger would have time to do what’s suggested, but he brings up a good point if you are serious about protecting your name.  (Then again, it doesn’t seem to be doing Seth Godin much harm.)

So far, I’m on MySpace, LinkedIn, Technorati, Twitter, Del.icio.us, StumbleUpon, Digg, and who knows what else.  If you really want to add me you can usually find me by my name (my employer did), or I also go by chicagourbanite.

Truth be told, I’ll probably only interact with you on Facebook.  My apologies in advance!

Investing in Your Name

I love having Twenty Set, but I don’t think of it as “my” blog.  Twenty Set could be sold or could turn into an online magazine full of other writers’ posts – who knows?  In other words, Twenty Set is a brand in and of itself, and I’m just the creator of that brand and thus tied to it – for now anyway.

My personal brand, however, is Monica O’Brien, so when I saw monicaobrien.com free I was quick to grab it.  Go ahead, click here to see it – there’s actually not much posted, except me confessing how bad I am at bowling.  The point is I own it, when you google “Monica O’Brien” I come up, and in the future I can do anything I want with the domain.  Casey Peters of the fast-growing Tennessee-based blog Knoxify admits this is the reason he owns his own domain name too:

“With the recent influx of “protect your personal brand” articles hitting the web, I decided it was time to take back my name. Now, I don’t know but one other Casey Peters so I’m betting I’ll be just fine. But you can never have enough insurance.”

Purchasing your name as a domain name is a small investment now that could pay off big later with all the domain parking going on these days.

Authenticity and Transparency

I tried the “Make Money Online” thing and it sucked.  I made money, but I wasn’t my true self, and I wasn’t talking about things that mattered to me.  Twenty Set makes no money at the moment, but I have an engaged audience I love to write for.  Penelope Trunk says:

“Blogging is a great way to network – if you are being yourself. Blogs are one, big conversation, so your ability to meet people and make real connections with them increases geometrically through blogging. People were very unsatisfied to hear that they thought they knew me but in fact I was not giving them my real name. And people who were just getting to know me got hung up on the name issue – they couldn’t believe that I was so well known by a name that wasn’t my name. Having a pseudonym is like having a wall up between you and everyone else.”

Authenticity and transparency are key.  I did interviews I had to tiptoe through because I wasn’t releasing my real name, and I couldn’t actually network with one of the marketing reps for Details who gave me an exclusive story.  Don’t bother creating a blog if you aren’t going to blog under your own name and be completely transparent about who you are.  It took me awhile to figure out, but now I’m happy with what I’ve created, and I’m able to share ideas with like-minded people.

What other personal branding caveats have you seen with Web 2.0?

Brandon A at Newly Corporate was nice enough to tag me in his “8 for 2008″ post, so I wanted to participate while also providing some value. This blog meme ties in well to a topic I’ve been considering for awhile now – the concept of what makes people interesting.

I had to give an elevator pitch to a room full of people when I started grad school in September. An elevator pitch is a one minute speech about yourself given solely to make a good, memorable impression on someone. Some of the feedback that I and others received is that we talked too much about our jobs and not enough about things that distinguish us from every other young professional. Talking about my job comes very naturally to me – it’s an easy topic to fall back on when I have nothing else to say.  I imagine many people of all ages feel the same way.

In reality, my job is boring to other people, and their jobs are often boring to me. We all know what work is about, but we still talk about work because it’s what we do all day and it’s what we’re comfortable with. I noticed this most at networking events - the first question everyone always asks is what company you work for and what you do – but are those answers memorable?

Here are some things I will consider the next time I write an elevator pitch:

Making a Good Connection

Making an impression is really about making a connection. You have one minute to find something in common with the person you are pitching to.  At that point, the person will decide if you are worth their time or not, so make your minute count by talking about lots of things people can connect with.  (Hint: your job probably isn’t one of them!)

Staying Relevant

Think of three words you would want someone to use when describing you.  Now come up with examples from your life that support these three words.  This will keep you from talking about things that don’t add value for the listener.  Also, your pitch will be more cohesive and have a “takeaway message” that brands you in the listener’s mind so he or she remembers you later.  Bonus Tip: If you are feeling very confident, you could even find ways to subtly drop these three words into your pitch for an even better effect.

Sticking in People’s Minds

People will best remember you if you have something in common with them.  Even if you don’t, you can also stick in their mind by providing information about yourself in bite-sized facts that have meaning to the other person.

How do you make something have meaning to another person?  By appealing to core human emotions.  Example: “In 8th grade, my father sent me to a ju-jitsu class to learn to defend myself. I left the class crying because I couldn’t do a single push-up, and I needed to be able to do literally hundreds per class. Four years later, I left the class again as a blackbelt.”  No, I didn’t make that up, and yes, that counts as one of my 8.

Spicing Up Your Speech

The way you say something matters.  This has to do mostly with tone, expressions, and body language, all of which can be hard to control without practice.  One thing anyone can control, however, is their wording.  I could say “My dad was in the Air Force, so we moved and traveled a lot.” Or I could say, “An Air Force brat, there are only two continents I haven’t been to – South America and Antartica.”  To me, the latter sounds more intriguing and memorable.

With those tips in mind, here are six more interesting and memorable things about me (though I won’t claim relevancy, this is a blog after all):

3.  I don’t mind public speaking, but I prefer singing, especially when I have a large crowd to draw energy from.

4.  I stopped eating meat last Thursday.  It hasn’t bothered me so far, so I think I’m going to keep it up and convert to a vegetarian lifestyle.  More on that later.

5.  When I was visiting my cousin in Arizona 4 years ago, we decided to get matching tattoos on a whim.  So now I have a black and white butterfly on my right lower back that symbolizes change and growth.  I wanted to use butterflies as a theme for my website, but felt that a butterfly wouldn’t appeal to guys and didn’t want to limit my audience.  Instead I have a grasshopper – I’ll let you figure out the reference.

6.  I could read a 500 page book in one sitting, yet my attention span for movies is only about 80 minutes.  As a result, the movies that appeal to me are usually for little kids, which drives my friends nuts.

7.  I take personality tests like it’s my job, but only if they are short.  More than 40 questions and I’ve likely already lost interest.

8.  I ran the 2007 Chicago marathon in 91 degree weather, with my husband, because we were raising money for children and breast cancer awareness.  It was our first marathon and a lot of people got sick from a lack of water.  We decided not to do it again in 2008.

Most people will never actually give an elevator pitch aside from practice because real conversations where one person talks for a full minute are uncomfortable.  Still, by mastering the elevator pitch, you will know what’s interesting about you and be able to share it with others at your next networking event.  

And my tag – Anyone else who wants to do this.  Okay, no excuses now.